What is the first thing you do after rolling out of bed in the morning? Turn on the TV? Check your e-mail, Facebook or Twitter? Spouses of Florida politicos used to complain to me half jokingly that their husbands or wives would check SayfieReview.com first thing in the morning, sometimes before greeting their better halves.
Twitter @mentions are my morning drug of choice. My day does not start until I see what other people said about me while I was sleeping. Sound narcissistic? It is. It is rare that I first check my friends' Facebook statuses to see what's going on in their lives, because, if I'm honest, my primary concern is how they are responding to what I have to say.
My morning routine is only the beginning. All day long I check to see who has retweeted my tweets or who has "liked" my Facebook status. My hunger for social affirmation via social networking never subsides - I always want more. More Twitter followers. More Facebook friends. More people reading this blog post! I try to sugar-coat my self-promotional habits as "providing value to my followers/friends" or "building my professional brand." And while these reasons have merit, at the heart of everything I (we) do online is a quenchless thirst for attention and affirmation.
I share this glum self-examination with you for three reasons. First, I am a social media addict and that's what we social media addicts do - share everything that's on our mind. Secondly, I suspect I am not the only one guilty of ego-maniac-social-media-syndrome. And thirdly, I share this grim prognosis with you because I know that I (we) can do better and make social media more about others than ourselves. 2009 showed us the incredible power social media holds in promoting good in the world larger than anyone's personal agenda. If the Iranian people using Twitter to fight bravely for freedom isn't proof of that, I don't know what is.
So here is my Social Media New Year's Resolution for 2010: I want to make the internet less about me and more about you. Sound simple? It is. It's a lesson that has been instilled in us since birth - a lesson of placing the concerns of others before self. What does that look like on the internet? Listening before broadcasting. Engaging before promoting. Learning before teaching. Building relationships before building personal brands.
Now, please don't hear me wrong - social media was made for self-promotion and will always be used for such purposes (by myself included). But as we look forward to 2010, I encourage us all to cut ourselves an honest piece of humble pie and make a commitment to focus a little less on ourselves and a little more on our 'friends'. Once we do that, I believe we will both provide and derive more value to and from our social networks.
I hope you will join me in making a similar resolution for 2010. If you are willing to make this pledge, I invite you to click here to tweet the following: My social media New Year's resolution is to make the internet less about me and more about you.
I hope you will join me.
I hope you will join me.



